I have had a lot on my mind lately. Just swirling thoughts that I have when driving in the car and I always mean to blog about them, then life gets in the way and I forget. So, here goes. Just some random things going on in my mind.
1. Naming my unborn child.
Michael and I have already decided what our unborn baby girls name will be. We have decided to not tell the name because in the past we have gotten some rude remarks about what others think of the name. So, to keep from getting our feelings hurt, we have decided to keep it hush hush until she arrives. Then, I could really care less what anyone thinks of her name. But for now, it is our little secret. And if you don't like the name, then shut up and go on about your merry little way. It is my child and you don't have to raise her, I do.
2. Handling 3 children.
Well, no one really knows how they will handle adding new additions to a family until that addition arrives. So please, keep all comments to yourself and do not make remarks about me having my hands full or my plate full. I know I do and I love every second of it. It is my life and a life that my darling husband and I have chosen together.
3. You don't need anymore kids.
While Michael and I have decided to stop with baby #3, it is no one's business if we do decide to go for #4. If we decide to go for a 4th, then that is our business and it doesn't concern anyone else.
4. I don't need help...until I NEED it.
Please do not tell me where I need help and where I don't. You don't know my strengths nor do you know my weakness'. Thank you. I have it all under control, and when I feel as if I don't, I will ask for help. Thank you.
5. Stupid People. Some people just don't know when to shut their mouth or when to NOT open it. If you don't know what you are speaking of, then please don't speak at all.
6. My kids are just that, MY KIDS.
Please, I know what is best for my children. If you have already raised a child, then pat yourself on the back, back off and let me do my job. This is my parenting act and if I screw them up, then I will pay for their therapy later on in life. But for now, let me enjoy this parenting gig I got going on.
7. I miss my husband.
Yes, we chose this life. But it in no way shape or form means that we don't love and miss each other when apart. If anything, I would have to say that we have a very strong and stable relationship. Probably more so than others. We don't argue over money because we share the same financial goals, we don't argue over raising children, and we have a greater appreciation for each other than you would ever imagine. I don't know how he is away from his wife and children for so long, missing out on "our life". But he does it and he does it with pride. For the freedom our family has and for the freedom your family has. Just always remember that you sleep peaceably in your bed at night because of men like him.
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I was going to attempt 10 points, but I am tired and tired of complaining.
Why have I let some people get to me the way they have? I don't know. I always attempt to make everyone happy and it never works, so I think I will quit now. I try to be fair in the decisions that I make, but someone always complains that something isn't fair. Oh well, that is life, get over it.
So, if you have something to say, down below is the little comment section, comment away! Off to read my book now and enjoy my clean house, minus clean laundry!
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Love ya VA and can't wait to meet the "child who shall remain nameless" :)
ReplyDeleteVirginia, I could not count the times I had people giving me their opinions of what my life was going to be like when I got pregnant with Weston just 2 months after I had Tyler, and believe me I got a lot of them. Of course, I did not care to hear those comments, but I knew I could not hurt the people that I would be counting on helping me in the long run. I just want to say that I am sure I was one of those that probably made such a comment to you about having your hands full, but you know what...every pregnant women in this world has heard the same thing...and sometimes you just have to let it go. Sorry if I have offended you or if Gigi, Diane, and Don has hurt you this much to post this. Michael is my only cousin and I love him, Diane and Don with all my heart. We are a close family and will ALWAYS be a close family. I know you and his family have not seen eye to eye, but that is not that uncommon among "in-laws." Lord I have had my share with Al's mom...believe me...but I also respect her because she is my husbands mother. Also, please don't get offended when you are asked when Michael is coming home. Just remember Gigi is 84 years old and Michael is her only grandson. Michael's family may have offended you, made comments that upset you (and let me be the one to apologize for any of it) or whatever else that has made you so defensive...but they have also been their for you A LOT too. I love Michael, the kids and you very much. I can not help but feel like this was directed to our family. It may not be, but in case it is...just know that Michael is Diane and Don's only child and with you guys moving away soon...they will miss out on their grandkids lives...that is why it is so important for them to get to spend time with Tristan, Tobbie and secret baby. Just like you said...Sometimes we just have "To get over it." BTW, I will not ask you anymore if you need any help, I sure do not want to offend you and have you thinking that I think you can not do your job...lol. Love you bunches!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAgreed on all points but especially #6 and #7. It's tough to be a military wife but we cannot be any more proud of our husbands. I laugh when people say they cannot be away from their spouse for more than a day or two. Gag. And, btw, I love all your children's names! Especially Tristan - it's such a romantic yet manly name. :) Enjoy having Mike around and your new baby! Hope to see you at Lewis again in a year and a half. :)
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